We were given this life because there are lessons to be learn from it. To grow and become better we have to go through these experiences life place in front of us. Everything you were given is right for you, your body, your mind, your dreams, your passions, your family, friends, even the things you don’t like about you or your life. All those things are just right for you. I am convinced that life is not a sequence of coincidences. It is not about being born and working and stressing and buying and spending and then dying. Life is so much deeper and there is so much more that what we can see and understand. We may not understand life until we die, or maybe not even then. But isn’t it better to BELIEVE? to think that there is a reason behind all what happen to us? Don’t we learn from bad experiences? Don’t we grow? Sometimes life can be very painful, hard and unfair. Even that is part of the lesson, part of the experience we need to live.
We were given our dreams because we are supposed to pursue them. The most important reason for life is to be HAPPY. The hard part is to find what makes us happy. Sometimes is hard to make that happen. Our happiness cannot depend on no one else, it is ours. We need to own our life, our feelings. We cannot let someone else condition them.
I am convinced that better days are yet to come. When I look back, and remember the worse days I’ve lived through, those days when I thought the world wasn’t going to get any better, ever and that dying was the best solution to my hopeless life, I realize that I had overcome those feelings, those bad moments. Everything is temporary. This also will pass. And it will get better, like today is better than what yesterday was. But it is up to you. and only you.
Steps to live a happier life:
LET IT GO. You cannot control everything. I repeat: YOU CANNOT CONTROL EVERYTHING. What others think, feel, say or do it is NOT under your control. You just CAN’T. The only thing you can control is yourself. You cannot control situations. The world keeps moving, life keep going, everything keeps changing and it is not following anybody’s orders. Life is free. and you should be free from your obsession for control as well. You cannot control everything. But you can control you.
KEEP LIFE SIMPLE. Life is meant to be lived, not suffered. Life is meant to be a learning process. An experience. A lifetime is short, and we cannot waste any time in doing what we don’t love, feeling bad, hating, fighting, complaining, or not working towards our happiness. Your main job in this life is to be happy. Life is way simpler than what we think it is. Life is so much bigger than our worries. Look around, and you will see. There are so many stories going on right now, so many people living a much better and much worse life than our own. If we stop for a minute and think about those who are going through really hard situations, then that would lessen our pain. We think our problem is the biggest of them all, we think our pain is the deepest of the pains. And of course, for us IT IS, but to stop feeling that way, we need to look around and realize that we are not alone with our pain, that there are many, so many people in this world with the same problem, with the same pain, and most of the times a bigger one. And they still standing, and you will still standing too. Because you were given this life, with all its good and bad things, because you are suppose to live through this, and learn, and grow.
HAVE FAITH. I am a very religious person. I LOVE GOD so much I can’t express it with words, it is a feeling that I can’t compare with any other. But, I understand that there are many that don’t believe in a Superior Being exist. My best friend is an atheist. And I had learn from her. I learned that you don’t need to believe in God to have faith, you don’t need to have a religion to believe. Faith is the conviction that there is something better, greater and amazing in our future. Faith is to know within yourself that things can and WILL become better. Faith is being absolutely sure that you will be HAPPY. Somehow. Someday. To have faith is to live your life fully as a complete human being, faith is a very powerful thing.
THINK. Think a little more in what you can do to make your life better, and think a little less in what you don’t like about your life. Is there something you are doing that makes things worse for yourself? Is there someone that makes things worse? We cannot let anybody control our feelings, our inner self. That belongs to you, and ONLY you. Think about why you feel the way you feel and what you can do about it to change the way you feel, Because YOU CAN. Choosing and mastering our thoughts and feelings is a extremely hard job, but it is true that we can, and should do it. Some days you will be over everything, and tired and mad and just upset with the world and you will think that nothing can change your mood. There is someone that can, that is you. You can put on some music, you can read a book, you can look at pictures of places you want to visit, you can call a friend BUT NOT TO TALK ABOUT YOUR BAD MOOD, but to remember a good time you had together. You can get your favorite food for dinner, or you can make it yourself, you can get a glass of wine (only one) and you can watch your favorite movie (The Godfather I is my favorite). When we have those days is better not to think too much, because what put us in that mood was our own thoughts of the situations that we live, or lived, or the fear of what we will live. We are the reason and the origin of ALL our feelings and moods.
RELAX. Find a couple of minutes a day. You can start with just a couple of minutes a week. Close your eyes and just focus on your breathing, you will notice it immediately becomes slower and deeper, just because you are observing it. Just do that. Don’t restrain your emotions or thoughts. Thoughts will come to your mind and leave, don’t fight them. Just let them come to you and let them go by just focusing in your breathing. Do this for 3 to 5 minutes. Open your eyes again. When you start doing this more often you will start handling stress better and become more relaxed and focused. Try it.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. In all aspects. Nobody will take better care of yourself than you. Eat healthy, exercise, have fun. All the things that you put in your body must be good for you, that is a way of showing love for yourself. Treat yourself, once a month have your nails done, or go get a massage, just because. Have a good meal at your favorite restaurant, or go to the movies. Try to do this alone, spending time with yourself is a must. We need to get to know ourselves without exterior conditioning. When we are alone we have to deal with all of what we are. By getting to know yourself you will bring much more happiness to the world. Remember that you are special, nobody can be you the way you are. You are your best company, enjoy it.
PLAN. Have one. You need to know what you want, what would make you happy, what are your passion and goals. Plan and take the first step, that is all you need. The rest will come with time, things will start happening once you give that first step. Take that course, start meditating, save the first 5 dollars, open that savings account, no matter what it is, TAKE THAT STEP. You only have today, tomorrow will take care of itself.
CLEAN Clean your house, your life, your closet and your mind. Throw away the things you don’t need, really. THROW THEM AWAY (donate them, give it to somebody, SELL THEM!). Seriously, you will feel much more light and free. Clean your life from toxic people, not explanation or apologies needed. Do not feel bad for cutting contact with those that don’t bring good vibes or energy into your life. This is your life; this is your time and dreams. You don’t have time for negative people, who only live to nag, gossip or hate.
ORGANIZE. Organize your closet, old papers and documents, your house, your office. Have order in your life. If you live in an organized environment your thoughts and your energy will be canalized into what is really important, your passion. Your happiness.
DO WHAT YOU LOVE. Only you know what you love and what makes you happy. DO IT. Do not think for a moment in what others would think or say. They have their own journey and that doesn’t have anything to do with yours. LIVE YOUR LIFE. Just do it. if you don’t have time, stop watching TV, stop being on your phone for hours, stop scrolling down facebook, DO WHAT YOU LOVE. You have to dedicate time to your passion. Nobody was born knowing, but if you love what you do or want to do, you will get better and better at it with time. Give yourself the time to do what you love. If you don’t have the money you need to reach your goals, stop buying lunch at work, cook at home (which is also healthier). Stop going out every weekend, have fun in a different way, so when you do go out it will be much more fun. Save your money. Honestly, how many pair of shoes do you need? How many things do you need? Saving that money to make your dreams come true is much more important than to have a new dress/ piece of clothing every week.
Make your passion a part of your life. THAT IS THE MEANING OF YOUR LIFE. THAT IS WHY YOU ARE IN THIS WORLD. Share your talent with the world. Show your worth, your passion is what you are. And you will be the happiest you can be. Life open the way for you, you just have to have enough courage to follow your heart.
Find it, if you don’t know what your passion is, you must find it. It is highly important that you do. Is never too late to start living the life you want and deserve to live. You were not born just to work and struggle and pay bills and be stuck in traffic and be miserable. You were born to be happy, to grow, to help others to grow, to love and to be all what you want to be. And nobody can tell you what is right or wrong, as long as you are not hurting anybody you HAVE TO LIVE YOUR LIFE THE WAY YOU WANT TO. Do not give regret a chance. Do not let your life go and wait until you are 60 and you physically can’t do what you always wanted. Do not do that to yourself, you are a majestic being, you are an amazing creation, you have the capacity to achieve absolutely everything. And you will.